27. Keep Showing Up: How Consistency Creates Connection and Opens Opportunities

What if the secret to finding your place in any new situation isn't about making a big first impression, but about the quiet power of simply showing up, again and again? And what if the discomfort you feel when you're the outsider is actually the gateway to genuine connection?

This solocast explores the profound simplicity of consistency – how regular presence creates familiarity, familiarity builds trust, and trust opens doors you didn't even know existed. Through personal stories from a new neighbourhood café and a windsurfing beach in New Zealand, you'll discover why being a reliable presence comes before becoming a significant one.

Drawing on the psychological principle of the ‘mere exposure effect’, I'll show you how exposure over time naturally creates preference and connection. This isn't about networking tactics or forced relationship-building – it's about the patient art of becoming part of the energy of what's already happening around you.

You'll learn:

• Why the discomfort of being "new" is actually where real connection begins
• How consistency creates opportunity in ways that one-off efforts never can
• The difference between being a reliable presence and a significant one – and why sequence matters
• How the mere exposure effect works in boardrooms, communities, and anywhere you want to belong
• Why authentic persistence beats impressive entrances every time
• The art of joining the flow rather than forcing your way in
• How to bring your authentic self into spaces regularly without being overbearing
• Why patience with the process is essential for real connection

Whether you're starting a new job, joining a new team, moving to a new community, or trying to create change in your organisation, this episode will shift how you think about showing up and finding your place.

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